Women, we are nurturers who often forget to nurture ourselves. Here’s a quick one-day vacation that will help your rid your life of the people and things that suck the breath out of you and clutter up your karma. Do this activity a couple of times a year and I promise you will live more happily, have more time for the things that matter, and rid your consciousness of people who drain you but add nothing to the quality of your life. Follow me.
Begin like this:
Take one full day off. No phone, email, doorbell, TV, or conversation with anyone but yourself. Sit quietly with your breakfast coffee- tea - whatever. Close your eyes. Take five full minutes to empty your mind. Open your eyes and make a list of things that are taking your time on a day-to-day or hour-by-hour basis. Next to each, jot ideas about your feelings - gut impulses. Do you generally react to these things (or people) postively or negatively. Consider your overall ipressions. We can feel negatively toward everyone or anything in our lives and sometimes. You’re looking for those things that just weigh you down all the time.
Put the list away and spend the rest of the day doing things that only benefit YOU. While you do that, talk to yourelf, honestly, all day, about things that are giving you difficulty. Listen to yourself. At day’s end, take the list back out and pick two things to modify or eliminate so that you regain time and energy they are sucking up. If it’s your significant other that comes to the surface - you will need to do some deep soul searching to discover what changes must be made to make that relationship work for you. Sometimes, you’ll need to find professional counseling to help you determine if that relationship is one you should keep, or one you’d be better off ending.
Take the two activities, things, or people you’ve identified and put them in a little box at the front of your mind. Everyday,for a few days pull each of them out and carefully consider what your next best move should be. Consider this from the point of view of helping yourself regain your time and space. Make a decision - change, eliminate, reprioritize, or put the thing out of your schedule for a while. If it’s a person, try not seeing him, or not catering to her, or being to busy to respond for a while. Once you’ve made your decision, trust your instinct. Act on the decision with strength, courage, and determination.
Let me know how it went.
