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Thursday, January 29th, 2009 | Author: Maryan Pelland

It’s a long time battle - women should be paid equal wages for equal work output. Everyone knows that, but for some reason, our nation has been slow to make it a fact. Obama hasn’t solved the problem, but he signed his first piece of legislation yesterday and that law gives people a larger window in which to file suit against workplace discrimination based on gender, religion, creed, race or national origin.

Washington Post says:

“…workers may bring a lawsuit for up to six months after they receive any paycheck that they allege is discriminatory. It is named for Lilly Ledbetter, who after years as a manager at Goodyear Tire & Rubber discovered she was being paid less than her male counterparts.”

Thanks, Ms. Ledbetter - who brought suit against Goodyear Tire and Rubber and lost because she waited too long to file. The law is named for her. In 2009 women still earn 79 cents against every dollar men are paid. What the hell is wrong with this picture? May the young women of today refuse to let this continue.

Thursday, January 22nd, 2009 | Author: Maryan Pelland

Violence against women is not a thing of the past. Pay close attention to the women in your life - friends, co-workers, grown daughters, aging mothers. Make sure they’re ok and listen to them if they seem to be complaining about their personal safety. Pay very close attention to women (and young men!) in the military for they are very vulnerable and have almost no support when they are attacked or abused, assaulted or violated.

Some statistics:

  • In the U.S., every nine seconds the is a battery against some woman
  • 95% of domestic violence victims are women
  • Domestic Violence is the single major cause of injury to women, more than muggings and car accidents combined
  • Domestic Violence is the cause of 30% of physical disabilities in women

Go read this piece from the Women’s Media Center The DNA of Violence by Marie Tessier. It’s the story of one man

Tuesday, January 20th, 2009 | Author: Maryan Pelland

(image from therawness.com)

Noon, EST. Barrack Obama is being inaugurated as I write this and it’s an awesome sight seeing Washington D.C. filled with passionate Americans.

“So help me, God,” Obama says, with a strong smile. I hope so.

“Forty-four Americans have now taken the presidential oath. Every so often the oath is taken amidst gathering clouds and raging storms. In these moments America has carried on…because we, the people, have remaind faithful to the ideals of our forebearers. That we are in the midst of crisis is now well understood,” he said, elaborating - our nation is at war, our economy is badly weakend.

And he put the blame on all and went on to say that we will persevere.

“Less measurable, but no less profound is the sagigng of confidence across America today. I say to you, the challenges we face are real. They are serious and many. They will not be met easily or in a short period of time. But know this, America; they will be met. We have chosen hope over fear. “

From his lips to God, Goddess, and Fate’s ears. Like many of my fellow country-people, I look at the coming year with trepidation. Who knows what will happened to us economically? Where will the world and national economies end up? We can’t say. I fear that our young president, just three years ago a junior senator from Illinois , has bitten off more than any human can digest.

I pray Obama can do this job. I hope we come out strong and fine. I cross my fingers that he, his family and our nation weather the strong currents against us. He promises so much. He will not be able to keep all those promises, but if he can even manage just one, to bring honesty and ethics to our government, then we shall overcome.

Pray for our military people, please.

Tuesday, January 13th, 2009 | Author: Maryan Pelland

Here comes Santa!

Here comes Santa!

Women Day by Day ran this story last Christmas, about the first Christmas tree, and had a great response to it. I thought I’d give you a little present and a nice tale to think about. Read it to some kids, or adults, you care about.

The story begins far, far to the frozen north in the Burzee Forest, home of the Knooks , helpers to Santa. This magical forest is across from the Deadly Desert, south of the Quadling Country, according to L. Frank Baum who blessed us with his awesome tales of Oz and fantastic lands. You never knew what would happen in those days, in that forest.

The Beginning
Well, it was almost a thousand years ago–way before you or I were even a thought. And the Burzee was special. It’s where Santa Claus grew up. Now, the story has come down generation to generation. From grandparents to parents to children.

It’s said that a flock of birds — likely sparrows, the poorest of birds - had to go south as usual, ahead of winter’s bitter cold. Being a little unorganized, like the grasshopper of old fables, they put their journey off, enjoying nice weather. Instead of preparing and getting a move on, they swooped along tree tops, snacked on abundant seeds and berries, and played. Too long, it turns out.

After a time, they soared upward. All seemed well. Their first travel day was sunny. Balmy. But the afternoon sky grew heavy. The leader sparrows worried.

There’s a Cold Wind on the Rise
Day two was another story all together.

Wind swept in from the frigid north, strong and gusty. It shoved sparrows every which way. Gusts stuck ice-crystals into feathers, gluing them together. Sleet blurred the birds’ view.

Some sparrows tried to take to the trees below. The angry wind pursued them, shaking them off branches. They plopped down, shivering, trying with all their might to take to the sky again. Landing was too risky.

The long day froze them to their bones. No sun. Snow tired each little bird, made them heavy and clumsy. The ground was a white wasteland. Not a good situation. Terrified, the sparrows forged on — valiantly trying to outdistance the blizzard — but becoming hopelessly lost. South? Who knew where south was now?

The sun, seeming just as worn out, slumped to the horizon and the birds knew they couldn’t go on. The leaders gathered the flock into a small V pattern so they could see each other, stick together and find shelter. Would they never find safety?

Sadly, one by one, wings stiff, feathers wet, heavy and frozen, they dropped from the sky like little stones. Hope was gone.

Won’t You Please, Please Help…
A large spruce tree, firmly anchored in the stormy dusk of Burzee Forest, saw sparrows plummeting toward him. He took a deep breath, swelling his branches to their widest width, and he caught birdies two-by-two, sheltering them in his greenness. Spruce, whose heart was as warm as his branches, sheltered the little flyers, soothed their terror and rocked them gently to sleep.

Finally, the storm blew itself out and went away. Soft yellow moonlight picked out shadows on the snow. The moon smiled at the birds snoring peacefully in evergreen beds.

In the meadow, quite near the spruce, stood a tiny log house. The garden patch around it was known for its bounty of vegetables and flowers in the spring. It snoozed under snow and moonlight now. Smoke sailed up through the cabin chimney. It smelled homey and warm. In the window stood a single candle with a red ribbon tied to its base to hold it in place on the sill.

Early in the day, when the storm began, the grandma who lived there with her husband, gazed worriedly out the window. At noon, she breathed a circle of warmth on the frozen glass, rubbed away the frost and peered through a tiny open space.

“Hmm. I need to light the way for travelers this day,” she said. “It’s Christmas. Getting lost is no Christmas present,” She grinned and lighted her candle.

Grandpa tossed a Yule log on the fire, saying, “I’ll keep the fire up so we can remember how the sun blesses us in summer.” Grandma nodded.

When they slept, later that night, both the grandmother and the grandfather had the same dream.

A young woman, carrying a baby, crossed the clearing. She looked cold and lonely as she approached the cabin.

The grandmother got out of her warm bed and looked out the window. There, like in the dream, a lady walked toward the house.

The grandmother said, “It’s odd how she leaves no footprints.”

The Grandfather opened the door, put his arm around the lady and led her in. They sat her to rest in their best rocking chair. They fed her, wrapped her and the baby in warm blankets and talked with her by the fire as she nursed the little one.

Later, the old couple went to bed, but their visitor said she’d sit a while. It was a night of peace and warmth. Slumbering deeply, Grandfather snorted a snore. Grandmother snuggled into the quilt.

As the moon crossed the sky and the night helped the forest recover from the storm, a little girl figure flitted, radiant and gorgeous, near the spruce. Her robes rivaled the brilliance of snow shimmering on the branches. She hovered by way of softly feathered wings and had a circle of golden light round her curly locks.

Christy’s angel eyes were as blue as glass balls you’ve seen on Christmas trees. Her lips were the exact color of candy cane stripes and her hair was precisely the shade of milky sweet cocoa. Her glow woke the sleeping spruce and the birds in his branches.

“So Tree,” she said. “long ago, trees like you, on the first Christmas night, sheltered the newborn Baby in their beautiful branches. You’ve lived up to their kindness by taking pity tonight on these humble creatures of the skies. Bless you.”

The tree swished his branches shyly, rustling shyly, pleased with the compliment.

“Well,” Christy went on, “Those nice folks in the cottage helped some strangers, too. They warmed their own holiday with concern for others and lent a hand cheerfully. Even with snow all around, there’s warmth here.”

She put her chin in her hand and sat, cross legged in thin air, for a moment. Obviously she was planning something.

“Ok. As an official Christmas angel, have I got a Christmas present for all of you! Watch this.”

She whistled, with two fingers to her lips. The shrill sound echoed through the night. She clapped her hands loudly, too. The spruce winced, wondering what would happen next.

From every direction came silk worms. Christy pointed to the spruce and the spinners sped up to the top branches. They spun silky strands all the way to the ground. Moonlight and reflections from snow and stars turned the silk threads gold and silvery. Points of light speared the crisp winter air.

And Christy fluttered her wings. She darted up to the dark sky and grabbed a handful of stars, shaking them like a little dog wrestles with a rag bone.

Star dust mixed with snow flakes on the spruce branches, sending a rainbow of glittery light splashing across the clearing. Startled from their sleep, Sparrows twittered frantically for a moment. But Christy’s calm quiet eyes soothed them.

For her final task, she called little furry creatures to her, bent down and whispered something into their ears. They dove off into drifts and burrows and returned minutes later, each bringing a bundle of berries and nuts from the forest floor or from their own winter stock.

Christy scattered the colorful ornaments into the spruce branches and stood back, admiring her artistry. She adjusted a berry here, blew some starlight from this branch to that, and was satisfied.

She winked, smiled, and vanished in a second.

Sparrows chirped in Christmas beds. The spruce shook off his amazement, admiring the beauty before him. The woods settled once again.

A few hours later, the old couple woke when a log crashed to the hearth and sent a shower of sparks up the chimney. The lady and baby were gone. The dim light from the fireplace shone on a dozen white candles, tied with a red silk ribbon, on the seat of the still-rocking chair. The cottage door was latched from the inside.

Opening the door slowly, brows furrowed, Grandma and Grandpa peeked out.

“Oh my,” the old woman exclaimed, rubbing her eyes as if the vision before her were a dream.

The old man clapped his hands and laughed, delighted with the gorgeous tree. His booming chortles bounced from limb to limb in the dark chill.

They had no clue how that first Christmas tree came to be in their clearing that night, but the soft Christmas Day breeze seemed to be trying to whisper something they just couldn’t catch.

Grandpa, never guessing how right he was, shrugged and said, “It might have been the work of angels, you know.”

At that moment, from across the treetops came the faint sound of a silvery giggle. The spruce rustled his branches and the sparrows twittered. And for the rest of their lives, the old man and his sweet wife decorated a spruce tree at Christmas. Soon, everyone who knew them did the same.

And the sparrows? It’s to be hoped they learned something about timing.

Thursday, January 08th, 2009 | Author: Maryan Pelland

I just finished writing a piece for Beach Blvd magazine on the Gulf Coast. Topic was dressing for your body shape and body type. I learned a lot and began to notice more often how women dress. Michelle Obama either has some great handlers or a keen sense of America in her style. I like that First Lady Obama doesn’t look couture or runway. I love that her girls look just like your daughter and mine might in similar surroundings.

Jackie O - Jackie Kennedy’s sense of fashion perked up American women - but who could afford her Chanel suits? We admired Jackie O but only heads of other countries, their wives and girlfriends could emulate her. With Michelle Obama, you and I can dress similarly by shopping american department stores, I think. Her clothes may be pricey, I have no idea, but they look like thngs a real woman would own and wear. You can imagine her actually wearing an outfit more than once!

Women’s Media Center brings a New York Times piece from writer Guy Trebay about his perceptions of Michelle, fashion and bailouts. It even sports a Michelle Obama and first ladies fashion quiz. Cool. see how you do - I didn’t score well.

If you want to read a bit more about my fashionable ideas, take a look at a couple of pieces I did for Suite101.com. Gulf Coast Spa Vacations. Healthy Body Glowing Complexion. Or take a look at my post here about women and our liking for showing off.

Wednesday, January 07th, 2009 | Author: Maryan Pelland

When I was a young married, my husband and I were very in to health-food and nutrients for health. About a million years ago, it seems, and I wish I had kept it up through all those years. Now, revisiting the concepts of eating well and right to stay alive and healthy, I find the ideas we were reading about back in the 1970s are in the news again.

When I was pregnant, my husband encouraged me, nay, bullied me into taking some things called inositol, choline and folic acid. I had a vague idea that folic acid had to do with hair follicals, but never mind that now. Point is, experts and pundits claim women who are pregnant, about to become pregnant, or even remotely able to procreate should be taking folic acid to prevent all sorts of birth and gestational complications.

Read about it here, at the Mommy Files - like they say in their piece, even if you have no conscious desire to ever ponder a diaper change - you might consider this supplement since half of all pregnancies are not planned. Mommy Files at SFGate notes the following:

Folic acid can prevent neural tube defects (NTDs), serious birth defects of the brain (anencephaly) and spine (spina bifida)–but only if taken before conception and during early pregnancy when NTDs originate.

That might be a set of good reasons to look into this idea and check with your doc if you’re in child bearing age range. Tell the women you care about, please.